Should I Continue to Bring Flowers to the Cemetery?
There’s something I’ve been wanting to talk about for quite a while. Never seen any articles about it. So I need your help. You see, we’ve moved away from my Son’s and my Sister’s grave – hundreds of miles. Years have gone by since I’ve sent flowers. When we lived close by…I always went – brought flowers, tidied up and talked about my day. When we moved I said “I’ll never stop sending flowers.” So, my thing is – I stopped. It’s not the flowers nor the money – it’s that damn note!! Always pitied the florist person who got me, I fell apart…every time. One day I thought “Why am I writing a note- they’re not reading it – maybe the groundskeeper will before he runs it over.” I mean, we have to write a note…right? Truly it isn’t for them – its for us, to ease the pain in some way. My guilt is fading, but my love and memories…never. Am I a bad mother – terrible sister? Do you feel guilty when you haven’t sent flowers or when you do – what about the note…do you include it?