“DOES EVERYONE GRIEVE DIFFERENTLY?” Grief is what we experience when someone close to us dies. Though I’ve heard a divorce is a form of grief too. Years ago someone very close to me…kinda disappeared. We’ve recently found her. Then, I learned of another form of grief. One I hope…I never have to experience. When Life gets bumpy, our road is full of detours. The forks distract us. One side has demons persuading us saying “Hey, we’re depressed and angry too!! Come with us, we have “goodies” to make you better.” The pull of that rope is powerful. The other side, our family & friends saying “Hey, we’re scared too, we love you; let’s be together. Come with us, we have forgiveness & happiness.” Some have hurt you, are untrusting. Their pull of the rope isn’t strong enough. She went the other way. It took time – our pull got stronger, she came back. But you know…I’m confused and upset. She’s better but still depressed, sad and angry. So, I told her my feelings. She explained: “Lynne, I know you’ve experienced incredible pain with death. Your grief is yours. My grief is from losing myself. I lost my kids trust, my job, my home, my family – my dignity. Now I’m healing. Be patient. I’m so grateful for those who didn’t give up on me. And it’s working.” That was – powerful. Then this rolled out of my mouth: “Okay, I promise you…I’ll never let go of the rope.” Weird how words mingle with your feelings. I’m glad I asked. And, that she told me. Just wanted to share. We learn from each other – to help each other. 2015, is going to be a good year.