What Women Shouldn’t wear to a Funeral. “Do I have anything in my closet to wear for this funeral?” “Can I wear my Funeral Dress to a Memorial Service?” It is totally stressful and confusing on what to wear. Men can wear a jacket or a nice shirt and pants and they’re good to go!
When you start rummaging through your closet wondering what would be appropriate for a Funeral or Memorial Service…Don’t worry – I’ve got you covered!
I’m gonna just tell ya…“What Not to Wear!”
Okay Ladies, Funeral Attire 101:
Conservative and Appropriate meaning nothing too short, too sexy, or too revealing.
Your makeup should be simple and not overdone. Meaning, you don’t want to outshine the decease.
Your shoes should also look polished and classic. In other words, you don’t want to look like you are about to hit the clubs!
It’s also a good idea to invest in waterproof mascara.
You don’t have to wear Black but definitely stay away from wearing bright colors and wild patterns.
You don’t want to be that Girl who shows up to a dignified funeral in a short, hot pink sundress. Not only will stick out like plastic flowers, it will have all those snooty bit#*es gossiping about your fashion choice for years to come. You also don’t want to detract from the real reason that everyone is gathered together, which is to mourn a loss.
When In Doubt, Dress like a Kennedy, not a Kardashian!
My best advice is to wear classic, modest clothing. Think “Jackie Kennedy”, with her simple, yet beautifully tailored outfits. Like Jackie, avoid lots of jewelry and heavy makeup. As the saying goes: “Less is more.” This is particularly true when it comes to appropriate funeral attire.
If you are in doubt about whether an item of clothing is appropriate for a funeral, ask yourself: “Would Kim Kardashian wear this?” At the end of the day, funerals are not about creating fashion moments and that this occasion is not about you.
It is about being there expressing your grief, supporting each other. And it is about saying goodbye.
If you don’t want to wear a black funeral dress, you could also wear a dress or suit in neutral color like nice greens, grey, browns or navy.
Please don’t do Sequins and Other Flashy Disco Outfits
You would think this is a ‘No Brainer!’ Trust me, I’ve seen it all. Unless it’s a Themed Funeral – sequins and other flashy outfits are a huge ‘notta’. This is a funeral not a party – so save the sparkly dress for a cocktail party.
DON’T: Bare Shoulders
Those trendy shirts and dresses with the bare shoulders will show off your tan and your gym workout, but would be tacky to wear to a funeral. But if it’s all ya got, and you’re in a crunch – you could easily bring a shawl, sweater or a jacket to cover the shoulders.
DON’T be tempted to Wear those Platform Shoes
Although platform pumps make your legs look way better, they are too much for a funeral. Again, a classic style would be more appropriate for a funeral. And remember, you may be asked “Are you going to the cemetery afterwards?” Depending upon the service, you could be going to the Cemetery for the burial service or a Church Reception after the viewing. Be prepared.
Please DON’T slip on the Flip Flops or Sandals
Look at your shoes and say to yourself “these would look great for perfect for my Key West trip! ” Or worse – look at your toenails! Then toss them back in the closet. Stay away from sneakers too. Certain choices sends a message that you were too lazy and don’t care. You really want the family of the deceased know that you took the time to dress appropriately and understand the importance of the occasion.
Be that classy ‘chic, you’ll feel better about yourself and it will help get you through this very important day.