What’s The Worst Thing Ever Said To You While Grieving? Has been a series of many topics on my Facebook Page. If you’ve never experienced grief yourself – or you’re just a moron; “HELLO!! The struggle is real!”
Yes, I get a little sensitive on this topic because some people are just clueless and can’t hear themselves saying these heartless comments. Though really, being a supportive family member, spouse or friend can be tough because what to say and do in this position isn’t cut and dry. Over the years we’ve read through the comments and responses on our Posts on this topic and realized we needed to share them. When you share topics and responses on real experiences – you not only help others…you educate them on “What NOT to say!”
So what factors make a comment go one way or the other? Well, for starters, comments that are ill-timed, said by the wrong person, said to the wrong person, or simply thoughtless, can easily get people in serious trouble.
All of that said, we should get around to sharing the list.
19 of the 1000 comments and responses regarding The Worst Things Ever Said To You While Grieving:
- “People have been through worse.”
- “I hear that’s the worst way to die.”
- “You have to be strong.”
- “What did he go and do now?” (Said to my mom after her son died).
- “You’ve lost so many people, it probably doesn’t even phase you anymore.”
- “At least he made it to 92.”
- “What did you think was going to happen? He was a drug addict!”
- “Everything happens for a reason.”
- “Your sad dreams and nightmares aren’t normal.”
- “Wow, they’re dropping like flies!”(On hearing of my husband’s death)
- “You’re too young to know what real grief is.”
- “I know how you feel.”
- “God never gives you more than you can handle.”
- “Don’t be sad when there’s so much to be grateful for.”
- “God needed him more than you do.”
- “She’s in a better place.”
- “Well, you’re the man of the house now.” (Said to my 12-year-old son)
- “If I went through everything you did, I’d have killed myself.”
- “This was obviously what she wanted.”(About a loved one who died by suicide).